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Dakota's avatar

Lovely essay, it really made me think about how my ability to just acknowledge my privileges might not be enough or the the amazing work I think it is.

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Onyi's avatar

so glad you liked it / it resonated. I feel like we could all do with some honest self reflection every once in a while 🫶🏾💗🫶🏾

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amayamii's avatar

Thank you for this essay!

Truly encapsulated that unsettling feeling I could never properly articulate. When scrolling through posts of what appears to be fanatic support for the oppressed while somehow reaping benefit from the same system they seem to oppose. But also directed at myself as a part ethnic Palestinian who grapples with guilt over an objectively privileged life style.

The purgatory is something that will be circling in my thoughts for quite some time now!

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Onyi's avatar

thank you for taking the time to read, & I’m so glad the words resonated with you in that way. 🫶🏾💗🫶🏾I know exactly what you mean by an unsettling feeling ! dealing with guilt of any kind is always difficult to navigate, but I hope you can find some rest and comfort during these times 💌

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Swerving Between Lanes's avatar

This was a pleasure to read - thanks! :)

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Grace's avatar

Thank you for this brilliant essay. It’s something I needed to hear and need to reflect on continuously and work to do better. I really appreciate your writing

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ebun's avatar

thoroughly enjoyed reading this!! ❤️

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Onyi's avatar

thank you for taking the time 🫶🏾

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bongi nkosi's avatar

maybe people refuse to contend with themselves because suffering in purgatory doesn't grant them the kind of moral superiority that allows virtue signalling, in search of external validation

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Onyi's avatar

I agree completely !!

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Nadirah Ashim's avatar

I love the cyclical analysis you do with the idea of a purgatory. Thank you for sharing this. You make great points.

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Onyi's avatar

Thank you so much 🫶🏾💗🫶🏾

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